Who ARE You???

Impostors . . . they sneak up on you.  Suddenly they are just right there, in your life - when you didn't intend them to be - and you didn't see it coming.  They are people who pretend to be something they are not. They use you for their own selfish gain. I find them to be a waste of time and space and I have no use for them. But sometimes, I don't recognize them.

Please, people: trust your gut. You know when you're dealing with a fraud. But don't judge yourself for not seeing it at first; some frauds are very well rehearsed in their act, so it can take some time to see through them. Yet, we all know that feeling in our gut when we think "something is wrong here". You can rely on that feeling, it's probably telling you the truth.

Don't let the imposters' duplicitous ways make you doubt yourself. Whether you believe it or not, we are all born with the ability of discernment. If we pay attention, we'll know when we are being fooled. We just sometime forget this, or don't trust it, or ignore it. But don't despair.

I've been known to ignore my gut when I really want to like someone or want them to like me. It's only human. I've definitely put up with someone's dishonesty far too much, for far too long. I hate that this is true, but I have done this from time to time, in all areas of my life (work, play, love) and it always ends up hurting me.

Because I'm an optimist, I hope beyond hope that the people I run across will be true -- but not everyone is. But the beauty of life is that there are all kinds and we can choose with whom we associate ourselves.

It's a wonderful human quality to have hope and to be optimistic, so don't give that up. Don't let imposter's get in the way of your optimism (or get in bed with you again).

That's the lesson. Trust and be open - but mostly trust yourself. Because you already know.

Comments

[Ernie Prinz]

Rebecca, this is so great. WHO ARE YOU??? These are questions we need to ask ourselves, and our friends. Trust... Start with yourself and all things then will fall into place. If people can't trust you and believe in you. Frankly, forget them. Out with the old and in with the new. New people, expierences, advetures....you wont regret it.

[Rebecca Edmonston]

Ernie:
You are very wise!!

[David Reich]

Very wise, indeed. Its sad that we have to be alert to frauds and phonies.

I tend to trust people and I usually see the good in people -- even when there is really little good to be seen. Over the years Ive learned the hard way that there are people posing as friends who are out for themselves and will throw you over in a flash if it is to their benefit.

But I still seem to keep coming back for more, although finally with a clearer eye to pick out and separate the wheat from the chaffe (or is it the other way around?)

We learn as we grow.

[Rebecca Edmonston]

We do learn as we grow (or is it the other way around?) Thanks David.