When is NEVER?

Why do men who are involved in relationships (living with their girlfriend or married), always say, "I never do this," while they're trying to get down your pants?

My question to them is:

                    "Is never happening right now?"

What exactly does that phrase mean and why is it so important for them to say it - every time - just before we're about to...?

Come on, I'm not stupid, I know that they say this to make themselves feel better and/or to flatter me. But, if I'm thinking of sleeping with a man, they don't have to say anything to get me there.

Men, in this situation, generally preface this statement with: "I know everyone says this but. . ." (Yeah, they all do say it.) So what makes him think that his saying it is going to have some special significance; or that I care.

When I hear the "I never do this" phrase, I always wonder:

• Is the implication that they are "breaking a rule" for me. (If that's the case: "Hey, thanks for the insight.")
• Are they saying that I influence them do things outside their normal M.O. ("Wow, I'm a lucky girl! I help you change your ways!")
• Does it mean they feel guilty about having an affair and need to justify it by saying it's not a pattern? ("Really? Ok. . . so. . .what?")
• Or does it mean that they think I'm special? (I have to say, If I'm about to sleep with a man - no matter what his other relationships are - I'm already figuring that "I'm special.")

It's just not impressive (to me) to be the first gal a man has been with outside his marriage (or serious relationship). I'm a very open person and I make it easy for them. Trust me, the men saying this to me are not the first I've had that are attached to another. I just don't see the conflict . . . which is another story and we'll cover later.

For me it's not a matter of believing or disbelieving the statement It a matter of finding the statement annoying and unnecessary.

I say: "So what?" that he's never done this before - I have, and I have no shame or embarrassment about it.

Would it mean something different to me, if he had done it before? ---- NO, because he would have done it with somebody else.

So, to these men who are looking to break boundaries:

Save the line for your own time -- when you're with me -- kiss me fiercely and hold me tight. You can justify your actions to yourself, by yourself. I don't need to know and, I promise, I won't be the one standing in judgment. . . 

I'll be the one enjoying our time together -- for what it is -- without the need for explanation or justification.