Got too much ASS?
Why do men get so attached when you have sex with them?
I call this ASS (Attachment Sex Syndrome).
ASS is a condition in which people (specifically referring here to the male gender), feel a need to make sexual relations a heart-warming experience. Such men attach meaning to hook-ups in an attempt to create some emotional significance to the "connection" (which is often purely physical). Men suffering from this disorder are not the ones you want to have a one-night stand with ladies, they cannot simply get laid for fun.
They suffer from Attachment Sex Syndrome.
I believe that sex is important, but not necessarily meaningful. True, sex and attachment can go hand-in-hand -- but they often don't. Believe me, those that expect that sex means "we're connected on a soul level," will often be sourly disappointed. Plus, they're often annoying to their partner who's just hoping for a good, carefree time.
Let's face it, too much ASS can get in the way. Especially when we just want to go out and enjoy a little lovin' without all the mess of a "meaningful connection."
The best cure for an ASS problem: Don't make more of sex than sex.
And remember. . . pleasure is good, even without ASS.
I agree with what you say, except women can get ASS too. In fact, I would guess that ASS is more common with women than men, since women are (generally) more emotional and generally do connect sex with some sort of attachment. Not that men don't, but it's been portrayed and in many ways accepted as a "guy thing" to seek meaningless sex or just sex for pleasure. Yes?
Posted by: David Reich | August 13, 2007 at 11:42 AM
Dear David:
I wouldn't say ASS more common in women, just more promoted.
During my research, I've found that men are raised to not show their ASS, when in reality they secretly have a great deal of ASS.
I believe that ASS in men is often overlooked, thus I felt it was important to focus on the male ASS to break the myth that meaningless sex is a “guy thing.” It’s really just "a thing" which historically – in this country anyway – guys have claimed as their own. I think they are in for a great surprise!
Thanks for your thoughts.
Kisses,
R
Posted by: Red | August 22, 2007 at 06:07 PM
I think you're right on this.
Posted by: David Reich | August 22, 2007 at 06:09 PM
Rebecca,
You and I have a common friend, if you spell his name forwards and backwards it is spelled the same. Anyhow I do not suffer from ASS. It is just a thing! So, yes to much ASS can get in the way!
Nothing but Sweet Nectar!
Ricomas12 formerly know as Querico12
You can also write ricomas12@aol.com if you want to solve who the common friend is.
Adios!
Posted by: MAS | April 17, 2008 at 09:34 PM