I'll be the Judge

I am the Judge in my life. I encourage you to be the Judge in yours.

We live in a world, full of Judges, ready to judge what you do, who you do/bed, what you wear and what you believe -- before they stop to notice how you treat them.

I refuse to judge people base on the superficial things like, who they are, what they think or how they live. That's all just noise to me, and often not really an indication of their value as a human being. It's more an indication of the choices they've made. And even if their choices are different than mine (which is often the case, because I live outside the limits of social norms), I still don't judge them based on that.

For example, I don't judge people for believing in God as being weak for giving some mythical figure credit for what they themselves created in their own lives (well, maybe I do a little). I simply consider that, for some reason, they need to have a framework that explains the unexplainable in order to feel safe and in control.

But, more to the point, I don't feel compelled to make them change their beliefs because they differ from mine, like religious people often try to change the beliefs of those who don't believe in God. I only feel compelled to judge them if their belief in God and Church result in mistreating others (specifically me), which it often does...unfortunately.

If their religious leanings doesn't affect me, I say "whatever works for them" is of no concern to me. So it's not what they believe, but how they treat me that is important and what I base my judgments on.

So, I will not make a value judgment on what you do (how you live your life, what choices you make, what goes on in your bed, what goes on in your head, what you look like, how you dress, who you choose to look-up to, who you choose to hook-up with, who you hang out with, what you think about things in the world, how much money you make or how you spend it, or if you own a car). I may have opinions on these things and I may disagree with you on some -- but I won't judge you based on that.

But I will judge you for how you treat me.

I don't even care so much how you treat others. I mean, who am I to say that how you treat someone else isn't justified or that it's wrong? That's between you and someone else, and for all I know, it may be the best way for you to relate to that person, even if I wouldn't like it if you treated me the way you treat them.

To me the true judge of character is not based on the values you hold or what moral beliefs you have – but how you treat me! Those I choose to have in my life treat me with respect, loyalty and importance.

Judge for yourself.