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I am the Judge in my life. I encourage you to be the Judge in yours.
We live in a world, full of Judges, ready to judge what you do, who you do/bed, what
you wear and what you believe -- before they stop to notice how you treat them.
I refuse to judge people base on the superficial things like, who they are, what they think or how they live. That's all just noise to me, and often not really an indication of their value as a human being. It's more an indication of the choices they've made. And even if their choices are different than mine (which is often the case, because I live outside the limits of social norms), I still don't judge them based on that.
For example, I don't judge people for believing in God as being weak for giving some mythical figure credit for what they themselves created in their own lives (well, maybe I do a little). I simply consider that, for some reason, they need to have a framework that explains the unexplainable in order to feel safe and in control.
But, more to the point, I don't feel compelled to make them change their beliefs because they differ from mine, like religious people often try to change the beliefs of those who don't believe in God. I only feel compelled to judge them if their belief in God and Church result in mistreating others (specifically me), which it often does...unfortunately.
If their religious leanings doesn't affect me, I say "whatever works for them" is of no concern to me. So it's not what they believe, but how they treat me that is important and what I base my judgments on.
So, I will not make a value judgment on what you do (how you live your life, what choices you make, what goes on in your bed, what goes on in your head, what you look like, how you dress, who you choose to look-up to, who you choose to hook-up with, who you hang out with, what you think about things in the world, how much money you make or how you spend it, or if you own a car). I may have opinions on these things and I may disagree with you on some -- but I won't judge you based on that.
But I will judge you for how you treat me.
I don't even care so much how you treat others. I mean, who am I to say that how you treat someone else isn't justified or that it's wrong? That's between you and someone else, and for all I know, it may be the best way for you to relate to that person, even if I wouldn't like it if you treated me the way you treat them.
To me the true judge of character is not based on the values you hold or what moral beliefs you have – but how you treat me! Those I choose to have in my life treat me with respect, loyalty and importance.
Judge for yourself.
What's the 1st RULE?...
"You do not talk about FIGHT CLUB."
And the 2nd RULE?...
"You DO NOT talk about FIGHT CLUB."
Pretty clear yes?
Well, we're talking about relationships here, so replace FIGHT CLUB with RELATIONSHIPS and you’re starting to understand the rules.
When you’re with someone, don’t talk about other relationships you have/had. It’s rude and unattractive, and a sure way to lose the fight.
Besides, it’s none of their business.
The 3rd RULE: "If someone says, 'stop' or goes limp, taps out, the fight is over."
So when someone says, “I’m not interested in pursuing this further,” or “I don’t want to fight no mo,” they shouldn’t have to say anything else. Once that is said, no one should have to continue to screen calls so as to avoid talking to another. And, you never have explain why, or convince the other that you’re serious about stopping.
And if you go limp...there can, obviously, be no more action.
It's over.
The 4th RULE: "Only two guys to a fight."
So that means, there are always only two of us.
Pair off for the fun. Only have one person with you at any given moment. (I’m talking literally here about how are in your bed at once*) Otherwise, it can get out of hand...
*Unless, of course, you agree to a threesome - which, quite honestly is not as interesting as it may sound – it’s a lot of work to keep up with more than one at a time. And it should not be work to play, right? So I generally stick to The 4th RULE.
The 5th RULE: "One fight at a time."
This is basically the same as above. (I don’t mix my men or have more than one with me at a time.) Too many egos involved make for too much competition among them to keep my attentions.
Plus, it increases the potential for someone to get hurt.
Keep it simple. One at a time, please.
The 6th RULE: "No shirts, no shoes."
Obviously! And no pants or socks either. (But boots and hats are sometimes fun…)
The 7th RULE: "Fights will go on as long as they have to."
Ok, that seems right. Both parties should have a chance to “win.”
Some may go on for an hour, one night, and some go on for a lifetime. Each fight (i.e relationship), like each man, is different in length.
The 8th RULE: "If this is your first night at FIGHT CLUB, you HAVE to fight."
What are you waiting for? Many people feel that you should wait until the 3rd date, like it’s a magic number for getting intimate. I personally think that if you want to start something, there is no time like the present. The first night is, after all, the first night of the rest of your life.
And, don't forget that after a fight, there's nothing better than make-up sex!
Welcome to Fight Club!
