Top Ten ways to tell that "His Mama didn't raise him right!"

1. He takes you out to a restaurant but he eats before he gets there so he doesn't have to buy dinner.
2. He buys the first round of drinks then asks you to get the next round and wonders why you don't consider him a gentleman.
3. He asks if you'll be offended if he invites you to go Dutch to a movie, and then gets angry with you when you are... offended.
4. He goes on and on about how many dates he's paid for, with no appreciation for the fact that you've held up your end of the deal by putting out on every date.
5. He kisses you goodnight but he's a sloppy kisser and he wonders why you don't answer his calls.
6. His way to end an argument is to tell you to get out of the cab while he pays and once your out, he takes off in the cab without you.
7. He claims to respect you too much to have sex with you. Ah...What?
8. He asks you to come to the Jersey Shore with him, then expects you to take a train to get there to meet him.
9. He has a car but doesn't give you a ride home after you spend the night at his place because he's "tired."
10. He doesn't call you the next day after a full service date to tell you what a nice time he had but facebooks you 2 weeks later saying he wants to see you, asking you to call him (like that's going to happen).

*** list is base on actual Red events (pretty unbelievable -- right?)

Comments

[Jennifer]

Annoying that it is all about -paying- for dates, cabs, etc. My mamma taught the boys & girls in my family to be financially responsible and most especially the girls to be financially independent.

[Red]

My Dear Jennifer:
It is disheartening that you see this article as "all about money" and not about being treated with respect.

And one of the ways respect for a woman (as a romantic prospect) manifests is by the man treating his date like a Lady - not like a friend.

You mention, being financially independent as a value of yours and although that is not the point of this post, out of respect for you, I will address that issue. It is, as a fiercely independent woman myself, a requirement that I am financially independent. However, this fact has nothing to do with being treated like a Lady on a date...which, if a man has been raised right, he knows this includes (but is not limited to) picking up the tab.

Such dating etiquette is not something that those who understand gender roles have to be told. But, I've found, through my vast experience, that there are those who simply don't understand good manners - so I wrote about it.

I implore you to let the man be the man on a date - and keep your financial independence independent of the dating scene.